I loved HypnoBirthing so much I recommended it to my pregnant sister inlaw and my friend, and a friend studying midwifery. Now my 3rd child is 9 months old and guess what? I’m going for number 4! haha I only wish someone got me hooked on HypnoBirthing with my first child! but then I guess I wouldn’t have the experience to realize how awesome it really is compared to the alternative! The breathing techniques and having a clearer understanding on what is happening makes everything so much easier and nicer! Thank you Stina! x
I had just found out I was pregnant with my 3rd child and I was an emotional mess! My youngest child was only 9 months old at the time and after his birth I was so relieved I would never have to go through that again! I was out shopping and saw a business card on a community notice board about HypnoBirthing and wrote down the details. I had thought about and read about hypnosis and relaxation techniques etc with my last 2 children and really thought there was something to it! So I was definitely curious to see what it was all about.
I was fortunate that my first 2 children were born natural and practically drug free (1st was completely drug free, 2nd I had gas in the last 2 pushes!) and they were beautiful healthy babies. But the FEAR of experiencing the pain of birth again scared the hell out of me. The reason I had drug free before was simply because the birthing classes at the hospital scared the hell out of me, about pain relief and the effects it can have on me and the baby. So as far as I was concerned I had no choice but to do it alone! The first 2 children resulted in 2nd degree tears and the stitching was horrible it was scary to go to the toilet after birth and it stung and I just hated it! I REALLY didn’t want to do it all again.
So, I gave Stina an email and organised for more information and signed up! It was fantastic! It all made so much sense and helped me to calm down and deal with the every day stressors I was experiencing in life during the pregnancy as well! The breathing techniques are very useful!
It was 10 days before my due date and I got up in the morning to go to the toilet (as you do when your heavily pregnant) and realised my waters had broken. I was so excited!
Just like my last baby there was no pain just a lot of dripping! so I casually put a pad on, called my mum to be on call to baby sit because she MIGHT have to baby sit later, sat down had wheat bix with my kids for breakfast had a shower, done all the normal morning routine things.
Put my 17month old in his pram and took him for a walk to the local shops. I had to top up on phone credit (going to need it if I have a baby today!) and a few snacks etc to send with my kids when they go to nanas later on. I was so calm and collected it was amazing! with the last 2 children I went into automatic PANIC mode. This time I knew I was ok, I knew walking helped in early labour, I knew how to breath through contrations (which started to happen in the middle of the veggie shop! but nobody knew!)
My mum called me when I was at the shop asking me how I am (it was a few hours after I had first called her) I told her I was perfectly fine and that I was just at the shop. SHE went into panic mode and some how magically appeared at the shop and was standing next to me at the register before I could blink! she was telling me off and freaking out and I just told her to shut up – I’m ok! She wouldn’t let me walk home, ( I would have happily gone for more of a stroll even though I was now having contractions) but I gave in and walked to her house instead and she made me some lunch. Contractions (or sergers – the word really doesnt make much difference to me) were getting more intense and closer together but I was in no pain what so ever. My dad seemed to be more concerned then I was! when he told me that it was only 5 minutes since the last one I cracked up laughing and said “are you timing? why? I’m ok I’ve got plenty of time I’m not in any pain birth is a long way off I’m not the slightest bit concerned at all.” I just wanted to enjoy my lunch!
I was extremely relaxed and happy. I just had to stop every now and then in the middle of a conversation to breathe through a surge and I was ok again continue eating my lunch! It got to the point that I was uncomfortable sitting on the chair so I decided to sit on my knees and eat my lunch at the table that way. I was still very relaxed and feeling fine! My mum and dad however were the extreme oposite! my mum yelled at me to ring my husband I said “no I’m ok nothings going to happen yet!” but they insisted – so I did.
When he arrived I was still relaxed, enjoying my lunch (might I add food was the last thing on my mind when in labor with the other 2 kids!) then suddenly I felt pressure and I got a little “ok quick lets get in the car” only because I didnt want my kids around when it STARTED mum was freaking out – she thought her grandchild would be born on her kitchen floor and demanded my husband to take me to the hospital. I laughed at her and said how dramatic they are all being! I eventually gave in and got in the car, but had to stop at home first to grab a few things 🙂
When I got to the hospital and had to get out of the car, thats when I really realised how close I was! It was too uncomfortable to move. I think I was feeling a little rushed and panicked (because it was the vibe from everyone around me! not me!) so I just started the breathing techniques again. Some ladies standing at the door, offered to get me a wheel chair etc and I said “no just give me a minute.” I closed my eyes breathed through it then I was fine to walk in!
We got inside I sat on the exercise ball (which I thought was stupid thing to offer me with my first child but with my 3rd I was in love with the ball!!) I just chatted to the midwife about my plan to have a water birth and that I was still at the point that I didn’t want to be denied drugs if I start to ask for them because in the past I got to the point of asking and they’d say I’m too late. My plan was to try and go natural but if I asked for them, I need them and didnt want to be denied them! (this is NOT recommended by hypnobirthing but it was a relaxing comfort for me to know I could have them if I give in!) My husband quite happily left me alone for a while to move the car and get my bags etc because he could see how calm and collected I was, he didnt think anything would happen too soon.
When he came back in, the pressure was getting more intense. The midwives where getting the bath ready and because it takes a while to fill, I said I was going to have a shower because the pressure would be nice on my back and my belly. I sat on the ball in the shower and had the hand held shower head to move around wherever the pressure was. It was heaven!! I had the urge to go to the toilet so I went to the toilet and just sat there for a bit but nothing happened. So I decided to get out and get some pajamas on because I was now feeling really cold. On the way to the bed from the shower/toilet (Barely 3 meters) I yelled ITS TIME! midwife said “IS IT?!” she said the baths not ready! I said “I think I want drugs now, yep I really want drugs!” (I knew from experience and from Stina that this meant minutes til my baby is here!) I sat on the bed, 2 deep breaths (I did cheat at this stage and took these deep breathing techniques into the gas mouth piece! but no pushing at all!) and I was a mum again! it’s a boy!
Best part was – because I didnt push or fight it – I just stopped- calmed myself – breathed – let the baby literally do all the work – I didnt have any stitches! yahoo!! Within the hour I could have happily got up and walked home!! after my first child I could barely sit up I was so exhausted and sore! It was so fast and so relaxed it was amazing! (from 1st contraction in the vegie shop until the minute of birth was 3hrs!)
I was up walking about practically immediately, went home less than 12 hours later, and took him for a walk to school the next day so my daughter could show her new brother for show and tell!! It was AMAZING better than I could have ever dreamed of! the only painful part was the afterbirth pains – feels like your having contractions agaun but nothing the breathing techniques cant get you through!
I loved hypnobirthing so much I recommended it to my pregnant sister inlaw and my friend, and a friend studying midwifery. Now my 3rd child is 9 months old and guess what? I’m going for number 4! haha I only wish someone got me hooked on hypnobirthing with my first child! but then I guess I wouldn’t have the experience to realise how awsome it really is compared to the alternative! The breathing techniques and having a clearer understanding on what is happening makes everything so much easier and nicer! Thank you Stina! x